Tips for dating a twenty something girl in the suburbs
This dear reader will be an on-going series of posts of my
own handy tips for dating a twenty something girl.
I feel the need to start
posting my own handy tips on this subject, as I have begun to realise; the dates
that I really want to go on, and the dates I actually do get to go on, are two
completely different things, and I have decided that instead of just moaning about
this to friends, co-workers, and strangers in the street, about the horrendous
valentines date I went on last year where I was given a sandwich as a gift, or
that first date i had where I was introduced to a dates parents, I would write down
handy tips and advice to men about how to get a date right, in the hopes that
any possible future suitors may read this and realise what a girl really wants
out of a date, and that definitely does not constitute a sandwich.
Today I will start at the beginning; decision making and
planning. I think that this is a really important part of the dating
process. Personally I would love a man to ask me out on a date that he has
already planned, as it would make me feel that he has really put the effort
into what he wants us to do together. In an ideal world it would go something
like this-
Man- Hi, it was really great meeting you the other night. I was
wondering if you wanted to go on a date with me this weekend. Xx
Me- yes I had a really good time too, I think I am free what
were you thinking of doing? Xx
Man- well, I was hoping you would be free Saturday eve? As there
is this awesome restaurant in town that does Thai food, I remember you saying
something about wanting to try Thai green curry, and friends recommended this restaurant,
and then maybe we could for some drinks after? Xx
Me- J
this sounds lovely, yeah I am free Saturday xx
Man- awesome J
I will pick you up at 7? Xx
See, I do not think that this is outside the realms of impossibility,
the man has decided upon a time date, and local for the date, using a previous
conversation as inspiration for what to do. Having said this, as a woman I must
not understand the complexities of this request as I have never been asked out
with this level of fore thought, usually it goes more like this-
Man- so I was wondering . . . would you want to go out some
time, with me? X
Me- Yeah, I think so J
what were you thinking of doing? Xx
Man- I don’t know really. Um well it’s up to you J xx
Me- oh, well I don’t mind really J xx
Man- well how about the pub? Xx
Me- okay xx
At this point I am screaming inside my head. I do not want
to go to the pub. The pub is where you go with your friends for a few drinks
before moving on, or for a Sunday lunch with the family, a pub is not somewhere
you go on a first date, and that is not even getting into the problem of what
attire to wear to a pub. No, I don’t want to go to a pub, but I also don’t want
to decide where we go. I don’t want to go through the maze of problems deciding
a venue for a date entails, I know this is hypocritical as I expect a man to do
this, but being put on the spot with a text is not great. Where do I want to
go? Well to be completely and one hundred percent truly honest, Paris.
I want
to go to Paris, I want you to take me there on the channel tunnel while
providing me with a bottle of champagne and chocolate covered strawberries,
then taking me to the Moulin rouge for an evening of entertainment and somehow
managing to take me back home, before the awkward end of date awkwardness
arises. I know this is not very practical and it is very sexist to expect a man
to foot the bill for this when I can barely afford to feed myself but this is
what I truly want deep inside. But of course I can’t ask for this, he will
think I am nuts, I can’t even bring myself to suggest a swanky restaurant as
they may be viewed as a gold digger move, no as a girl I cannot suggest
anything I really want to do without coming across badly to someone I genuinely
want to impress. No all I can do is half-heartedly agree with whatever they
suggest though secretly dying inside when they suggest a pizza.
Thank you for reading, please stay tuned formy next instalmant, the problems of what to wear during a date
